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ALL in the Family: Navigating a Half-Sibling Group of 90

Guest Blog: by Lavon Peters My kids belong to one of the larger groups of half-sibs on the Donor Sibling Registry. You know the groups—the ones whose numbers make everyone say “OMG!” Our current count is 90* kids, but it … Continue reading

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When You Learn the Truth: 8 Tips for Donor-Conceived Adults Who Just Found Out

Are you a donor-conceived adult who has only recently discovered the truth of your conception? Perhaps your parents finally decided to tell you — or maybe you found out on your own (possibly through a DNA test). You’re probably feeling … Continue reading

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When the Truth Comes Out: 8 Tips for Parents of Donor-Conceived Adults

Are you a parent of a donor-conceived adult who is only now finding out the truth of their conception, either because you put off telling them until now or because they’ve discovered the truth on their own? If so, you … Continue reading

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Curiously Not Curious

Sometimes, donor-conceived people claim that they’re not curious about or interested in meeting their half-siblings or their other biological parent (donor). I’ve found that when we dig a little deeper into the issue, we often find that this ambiguity (or … Continue reading

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Kindred Spirits

kin·dred spir·it /ˈkindrid ˈspirit/ noun “a person whose interests or attitudes are similar to one’s own.” In both our families of origin (the families that we grow up with) and in our donor families (the family that we meet later … Continue reading

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Donor Offspring: Voices of the Disenfranchised

Over the years I have given a lot of thought to how the varied voices of donor-conceived people are heard and considered. While I do think that all donor-conceived people’s experiences and points of view need to be included in … Continue reading

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From a Donor’s Wife

Many people (and certainly the sperm banks) often don’t understand why 20, 40, 100, or 200 kids for any one donor might be problematic. Besides the obvious medical and psychological issues for donor offspring, this perspective from a donor’s wife … Continue reading

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CBS News & the NY Times: Woman uses DNA test, finds sperm donor – and pays a “devastating” price.

CBS ran their story on the Northwest Cryobank situation I wrote about in my last blog post and the NY Times ran its story on February 16, 2019. It’s my professional opinion that sperm banks’s attempts to keep donor-conceived people from their first and second-degree genetic relatives, by trying to … Continue reading

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DNA and Your Rights

We’ve been hearing disturbing accounts of NW Cryobank threatening donor families for DNA testing. In the past, this sperm bank has also prohibited its donors from using the DSR to make mutual consent contact, thereby prohibiting offspring from learning more … Continue reading

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Truth Be Told

We recommend telling donor-conceived people the truth about their conception very early on (pre-verbal) so that there is never a traumatic “telling” or “finding out” event.  When your child understands how they were created right from the beginning, it just … Continue reading

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