Author Archives: wendykr

Curiously Not Curious

Sometimes, donor-conceived people claim that they’re not curious about or interested in meeting their half-siblings or their other biological parent (donor). I’ve found that when we dig a little deeper into the issue, we often find that this ambiguity (or … Continue reading

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Kindred Spirits

kin·dred spir·it /ˈkindrid ˈspirit/ noun “a person whose interests or attitudes are similar to one’s own.” In both our families of origin (the families that we grow up with) and in our donor families (the family that we meet later … Continue reading

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Donor Offspring: Voices of the Disenfranchised

Over the years I have given a lot of thought to how the varied voices of donor-conceived people are heard and considered. While I do think that all donor-conceived people’s experiences and points of view need to be included in … Continue reading

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From a Donor’s Wife

Many people (and certainly the sperm banks) often don’t understand why 20, 40, 100, or 200 kids for any one donor might be problematic. Besides the obvious medical and psychological issues for donor offspring, this perspective from a donor’s wife … Continue reading

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CBS News & the NY Times: Woman uses DNA test, finds sperm donor – and pays a “devastating” price.

CBS ran their story on the Northwest Cryobank situation I wrote about in my last blog post and the NY Times ran its story on February 16, 2019. It’s my professional opinion that sperm banks’s attempts to keep donor-conceived people from their first and second-degree genetic relatives, by trying to … Continue reading

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DNA and Your Rights

We’ve been hearing disturbing accounts of NW Cryobank threatening donor families for DNA testing. In the past, this sperm bank has also prohibited its donors from using the DSR to make mutual consent contact, thereby prohibiting offspring from learning more … Continue reading

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Truth Be Told

We recommend telling donor-conceived people the truth about their conception very early on (pre-verbal) so that there is never a traumatic “telling” or “finding out” event.  When your child understands how they were created right from the beginning, it just … Continue reading

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Donor Siblings: Our “Spreadsheet Moment”*

18 years ago I posted the very first message on our original Yahoo Group board: Donor #1058?  Wendy Kramer  Sep 3, 2000 I am the mother of an awesome 10 year old donor child. I know that he has at least … Continue reading

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Parent: A Noun and a Verb

Guest Blog: by Former Egg Donor Marilyn Drake Parent is a noun: biological mother or father, which is what a donor literally is. Parent is also a verb: the act of caring for a child, taking responsibility, raising them. One … Continue reading

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Connecting on the DSR vs. on DNA Websites

Ryan and I started the Donor Sibling Registry (DSR) in 2000, via Yahoo Groups, one of the the earliest social media-type applications.  Our group was based on the idea that Ryan’s donor had signed up for anonymity (and Ryan respected that … Continue reading

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