Thanks to all of you for your openness and honesty!
Posted on 01/17/14
I never thought I'd be writing this. But then, I never ought I'd want to talk to my children's sibling families ...I was so wrong. I picked an anonymous donor for a reason...I had a plan to manage my kids' questions...but I was wrong. I initially picked a donor to have a child on my own, as a single mom. The donor looked a lot like me as a kid...but had brown hair and eyes, like my deceased spouse.
I managed to get pregnant in 4 months and had units left...I kept them. My beautiful little man was born and within a month I decided I would be having another so that he had someone! I always planned to tell him that I was so lucky to have used a donor and got him!
While pregnant with my daughter, I read about the registry on Oprah. I thought I'd never sign up. After my daughter arrived, I decided to register and I can't explain how glad I am. I have spoken with several families who used the same donor. One family became a friend, via email...thru them I learned our donor had changed to an open donor...and I registered. Now it was important that they be able to find their history one day.
My children are now almost 8 and 6. They are awesome! And they have so many questions. My daughter wants a dad....and she wants sisters....many sisters. It dawned on me recently that she has so many...so I think she is really perceptive and one day will be so excited to meet others in similar situations to her. I have decided, contrary to my earlier views, that I want her to meet and know her siblings.
Thanks to all of you for your openness and honesty. You have helped me and I so love reading your stories.