Egg Donation

Support and information on egg donation, including information about how to include the DSR in your recipient/donor contract.

DSR/Clinic Egg Donation Contracts/Consent Forms
     How It Works: Step by Step
     Sample Egg Donation Contract Verbiage
     FAQs About Egg Donation Contracts
Success Stories
Experiences of Egg Donors and Recipients
     DSR Blog
     Huffington Post Articles
Research on Egg Donation


DSR/Clinic Egg Donation Contracts/Consent Forms

Many egg donor agencies and clinics are now writing the Donor Sibling Registry into their contracts/consent forms so that recipient parents and donors have anonymous access to each other.

The advantages of using the DSR include the fact that our permanent membership price is only $199 for the recipient parents and $199 for the donor. Both parties can contact each other at any time, with no middlemen. They can share photos and other pertinent information, such as medical updates, all while remaining anonymous. And if the children have questions, they can contact the donor anonymously on the DSR (with their parents if under age 18) to receive the answers they're looking for.

Recipient parents and donors can connect with each other earlier than the child's 18th birthday. We understand that many donor children are curious long before their 18th birthday, and many have made successful connections during their teen (and even earlier) years. We also understand that 18 is an arbitrary number and that parents know their children best as far as what age might be most appropriate for their child to reach out. This empowers everyone involved, without having the clinic or a lawyer in charge of their family information.

How It Works: Step-By-Step

1. The recipient parent(s) join the DSR first, as full paying permanent members ($199). They then add their posting (log in and click "Add a New Posting"), specifying their donor number/ID and the name of their clinic.

2. The donor also signs up, as a non-paying member, and chooses a DSR username.

3. The recipient parent sends payment for the donor's permanent DSR account ($199), via check (payable to Donor Sibling Registry, PO Box 1571, Nederland CO, 80466) or via eGift Card (payable to (Amazon gift cards are more immediate and are easier for those outside the US.) The recipient parent must include the donor's DSR username so that the donor's account can be upgraded to full membership; ask your clinic/agency/attorney for your donor's DSR username. 

4. After the DSR receives the donor's membership payment from the recipient parent, we will contact the donor to let them know that we have received payment for their account, that we have updated their DSR account to full membership status, and that they should now add their posting to the DSR. (Log in and click "Add a New Posting" from the "Member Tools" menu.)

5. Finally, we email the recipient parent who paid for the donor's membership, to let them know that we received the payment, upgraded the donor's DSR account, and emailed the donor asking them to add their posting. We also ask the recipient parent to make sure they've added their own posting to the DSR. The recipient parent and donors must BOTH add their postings to the DSR. 

Important: The donor and the recipient parent both need to post with the same donor number/ID and facility/clinic, so they show up on the DSR as a "match." They can then both access the medical/genetic information page, donor survey/Q&A, photos, and email messages — all while retaining privacy.

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Sample Egg Donation Contract Verbiage

  1. Method of Communication

    The Parties agree that future communication will occur through the Donor Sibling Registry located at If the communication is for medical purposes described in paragraph [XX] of this Agreement, it may occur through the Donor Sibling Registry or through [clinic]. Donor agrees to register with the Donor Sibling Registry after receiving notice of a pregnancy which results from Donor’s performance under this Agreement. Intended Parent(s) agree to pay Donor’s membership fee with the Donor Sibling Registry.

  2. Future Contact by the Child

    Donor agrees to be contacted by the Child after the Child reaches the age of 18, or at any time, if the Child so desires. The Child may communicate with Donor through the Donor Sibling Registry or another mutually agreed upon method of communication. All correspondence on the DSR is anonymous.

  3. Future Contact between Intended Parent and Donor

    If either Intended Parent or Donor desires contact with the other, they may communicate that desire through the Donor Sibling Registry. If the Parties are mutually agreeable to having contact, then they may communicate and share contact information through the Donor Sibling Registry or another mutually agreed upon method of communication.

  4. Agreement Not to Seek Identifying Information Not Otherwise Disclosed

    Donor agrees that he/she will not participate in any act or claim that may lead to the disclosure of information about Intended Parent or any Child other than that agreed upon in this Agreement or in the Parties’ communications through the Donor Sibling Registry.

    Intended Parent agrees that he/she will not participate in any act or claim that may lead to the disclosure of Donor‘s contact information other than that agreed upon in this Agreement or in the Parties’ communications through the Donor Sibling Registry.

    NOTE: A donor-conceived person (or donor) can at any time submit her/his own DNA into a commercial DNA company and locate their genetic relatives in this way. Many donors have been located via DNA testing, so donors should know that there are no guarantees for anonymity.

  5. Medical and Mental Health Information

    The Donor has provided medical information to [clinic] and agrees to provide additional information if requested to do so in the future. Donor agrees to be contacted by Intended Parent through the Donor Sibling Registry, and by [clinic] if the child experiences a life-threatening or serious medical condition. Donor agrees to provide additional medical information at that time and will consider providing further assistance if requested to do so.

    If Donor discovers new medical or mental health information or any of her children develop serious medical or psychological conditions that Donor’s physician has determined to be genetically related to her, Donor agrees to inform Intended Parent through the Donor Sibling Registry or to contact and inform [clinic] so they can inform Intended Parent.

    If any Child born from Donor’s eggs suffers serious medical or mental health conditions that may be genetically related to Donor, Intended Parent agrees to contact Donor through the Donor Sibling Registry or to contact and inform [clinic] so they can inform Donor.

  6. Update Address and Contact Information

    Intended Parent and Donor agree to keep [clinic], and the Donor Sibling Registry, and successors to any of these entities, informed of their address changes.

  7. Conflict Between Documents

    If any portion of Paragraph [XX] of this Agreement regarding future contact between Intended Parent, Child, and Donor conflicts with documents previously signed by the Parties with [clinic], the terms of this Agreement will prevail.

If you are looking for an attorney to draft your egg donor contract, please email Wendy for recommendations!


FAQs About Egg Donation Contracts

Following are some frequently asked questions about egg donation contracts.

Should the contract specify that egg donors update their information on the DSR annually (e.g., every January 1st)?

An annual update is a good idea, as well as when any new medical or genetic information becomes available about the egg donor or anyone in the egg donor's immediate family.

Should recipients also update their information on the DSR?

Absolutely! If a child has a medical or genetic condition, it is very important that the donor is notified. The sharing of medical information goes both ways — between all families and their donor and from the donor to the families. The DSR includes a medical page that the donor or families can add to, edit, or update when needed. All matching families can see this information. Matching families can also email and share photos, all anonymously. When new information is added to the shared medical page, all affected families are notified by the DSR.

Since the donor is anonymous to us, how can we pay for their DSR membership? Do we need their email address and password?

No. You only need to know your donor's DSR username. The donor signs up on the DSR with a username and password. Then, you send the DSR $199 for your donor's permanent membership (telling us your donor's username). We will then update your donor's account to permanent status, and your donor will be able to add a posting to the DSR. (To add a posting to the DSR, log in and click "Add a New Posting.") Recipients join the DSR and post the regular way. (Log in and click "Add a New Posting.") You both need to post with the same clinic and donor number so that you are matched to each other on the site — and then you can share all information anonymously. Intended parents and donors must BOTH add their postings to the DSR.

How do we pay for both lifetime memberships (ours and our donor's)? Can we use a credit card?

The recipient membership can be paid via credit card on the website, when you join. The recipient family can pay for the donor’s membership via check (payable to Donor Sibling Registry, PO Box 1571, Nederland CO, 80466), or via eGift Card (payable to

What information should we share with our child, so they can seek their donor's information in the future?

Your child can have access to the DSR through your username and password. This means that your child can have anonymous contact with your donor at any time.

Is there anything that prevents a child from accessing/seeking information about their donor earlier than age 25?

Legally, no. Your child is not signing any agreement. Many clinics say that the contracts signed by the parents also apply to the offspring (even though the children have never signed any contracts), but this has not been tested in court — most likely because this claim has no merit. 

Ethically, no. Many donor-conceived children have many questions about their ancestry, medical backgrounds, and genetics. It is a normal desire to want to know where you come from. 

Consider the parallels to adoption — some adopted people are not curious, whereas some are very curious. Many donor-conceived children are curious at a young age. This curiosity doesn't mean that you are not the child's parent(s); it just means that they have questions with answers that might help them form their identities. Part of defining who you will become as an adult is knowing where you come from. A donor child feeling curious about and wanting to reach out to learn more about her ancestry, medical background and first-degree genetic relatives should be honored and supported. Thousands of families with children under 18 have connected on the DSR with very positive results!

A key factor for us in this process is that the donor agrees to be contacted by the child after the child reaches the age of 18 if the child wishes to do so. However, we are still unclear about who (and where) keeps the details of the donor for potential future contact by the offspring and what records are kept (e.g. social security number or something like that in case there are future changes to phone, email or address). Would the DSR keep these records and provide them to the child at 18? We just would like to know how our child would be able to get the donor details in the future and how it can be ensured that the donor can be contacted even if she changes address, email, etc.

The DSR provides a link between the donor and the recipient family right from the start! So you can share information from day one, as there is no need to wait until age 18. We feel that 18 is an arbitrary age set by the industry to cover their own liabilities. We have done enough research to know that contact before the age of 18 can be important, profound, and life changing (and life-saving). After 16 years, 52,000 members and many research studies, we are baffled that this industry still works so hard to keep donors from the families.

The legal verbiage gives you a template so that you can then be empowered to decide how and when to have contact with your donor. We try and make it so that there is no middleman needed, so you need to set up the contract so that clear rules for contact are set up right from the start. Many donors change their minds after 18 years, so it's ridiculous to ask a young donor to make decisions now, about how she will feel in 18 years. That's why establishing contact from the beginning can be crucial. The donor should have it in her contract to always keep her contact information current on the DSR. 

We will always have the records (although we do not keep SS#s), but you don't have that type of contract with the DSR. We have never released personal information on any of our members. We feel it's the families and the donors who need to share this information with each other.

What type of reassurances are there that the DSR will exist in 25 years?

Yep, the “bus clause." Although I don’t have any plans to be hit by a bus…. if it's not me, someone else will be running the DSR. Unlike the sperm banks, clinics and doctors (many have already destroyed records) our records will never be destroyed.

What information should the donor submit on the DSR?

We have a donor "Q&A" sheet with 25 or so of the questions that we hear most from offspring. And again, the photos page and medical pages. These are pages that only you two can see, not any other DSR members.

When should recipient parents register on the DSR?

Whenever you want to. Some post before pregnancy, some during, some wait until after a baby is born.



Thank you for EVERYTHING you do that makes it possible for these connections to be forged. We are proud and honored to work with the DSR! We’re registering every donor who agrees to undertake semi-known and known cycles and since Dr. D. joined SDFC last year, with all his male/male couples throughout Europe – who all want future contact – our registration numbers will keep growing and growing.

Jenna, San Diego Fertility Center

Each year I see more intended parents who want to make sure their child one day ''has the option'' to meet their donor if they wish. As an agency I am grateful that there is a program like The Donor Sibling Registry that can be an advocate for the child, donor, and intended parents who desire this type of relationship.

Katy Encalade, Program Director

More and more of our recipient and donor pairs hope to sign up for the Donor Sibling Registry. We often have comments about how helpful you are as facilitator.

Andi, Oregon Reproductive Medicine

Just wanted to send a note to say how much our clinic appreciates this option for our patients. Currently our office only offers anonymous embryo donation. However, some of our patients would like a more open arrangement. Your site allows patients who trust our office and want to stay with us, to have the best of both worlds. Now they have a place where they can go to control the amount of contact they have with their donor or recipient. It’s the perfect solution for them and we are grateful you offer this option!

Christine, The Fertility Center, MI

Thanks for all you do and the education you have given many in this industry. Your passion and your son's passion has been a great push for all of us.

Former Egg Donor

While exploring the idea of Egg Donation to build a family there are unknown scenarios that families may encounter. It is simple for both intended parents and egg donors to consider their feelings and needs now but may not fully understand what future questions there might be. The Donor Sibling Registry allows a safe and comfortable way to allow future communication when it becomes apparent it would be beneficial to a parent, the egg donor, or a resulting child. The Registry allows all parties to ask questions, exchange medical information, and possibly meet when the time is right for each. The Donor Sibling Registry allows all individuals to move at their pace and the lifetime membership is a worthwhile investment.

Kallie Wilson, MSW, Care Coordinator

We used an egg donor and had a gorgeous baby girl who is now 9 months old. We struggled with how best to tell her about her origins. We wanted to be sure our approach would empower her and leave no unanswered questions. We scheduled a call with Wendy who was able to advise us on how to proceed and we are so glad we did. She exudes knowledge about the issue and was able to support her advice with logical incisive arguments. She is clearly a leader in the field and her experience has allowed her to think outside the box and break the constraints of classical thinking about this issue. We recommend her to anyone considering egg or sperm donation before and after the process.


I wanted to take a minute and thank you for going the extra mile to get us in contact with our egg donor. We are beyond elated to have established communication and a relationship with her. She is awesome, receptive, and lovely. I met her last week and am just so happy to have that piece of our son's "puzzle" put in place for his future. Many, many thanks!



Success Stories

2014: The Katie Couric Show: This piece featured a teenager and her parents meeting their egg donor, and her two daughters, for the first time! Very emotional - and shows how important these connections can be - for all involved. Read about it in USA Today and in the June 5th Tennessean: Nashville Teen Finds Her Egg Donor. DSR members can watch the video in our Video Library (Click on News Tab).


Experiences of Egg Donors and Recipients

  • 2015: From one of the oldest egg donor offspring on the DSR: "I was conceived by a donor egg in 1988. My mom says she does not remember any of the basic information about the egg donor (ethnicity, medical history, etc). I have called the clinic where I was conceived multiple times, left messages and never gotten a response back. The only information I have is the serial number of the petri dish I was made in because the clinic gave my mom the petri dish as a souvenir. I am G**80. I got that number tattooed on the back of my neck, I guess it was my way of trying to re-establish control and ownership of my own body after I had been told I had no legal rights (seeing as I was the product, and not one of the people involved) to my own genetic history and information. I love my mom and her family, but it has always been extremely obvious that I do not share genetic material with them; aside from physical appearance, we have absolutely nothing in common in terms of shared interests, aptitudes, dislikes, taste or personal traits. We are polar opposites to a comical degree."
  • An egg donor joined the DSR with this heart-warming message: "Egg donation is a part of my life that I hold near and dear to my heart. I'd love to connect with recipients to answer any questions they have about me and to potentially meet if that's what we mutually agree to. I'm passionate about doing this and have taken this responsibility very seriously. I feel I've finally gotten the courage to join the registry because it's the right time. I'm excited to potentially open my heart and family to new individuals who I feel a strong connection to without knowing anything about them. Please message me if you feel I'm your donor!"
  • If you're thinking about donating and already have or will have a family of your own, consider this message from an egg donor's child: "Years ago my mom sold her eggs to help pay rent and give us a good holiday (we weren’t doing well at the time) I was around 7 at the time and didn’t understand until now how big of a deal that was. I’m 14 now and it keeps me up at night that I have 1 or more siblings out there. I’ve been reading stories online about how donor siblings found each other and it literally brought tears to my eyes. I want to meet them so bad and it makes me upset thinking I could go my entire life without meeting someone related to me.. I wanna know what they’re like.. so bad. I can’t even describe how much I want to meet them.. it hurts a little. I’ve talked to my mom about this and she says just leave it alone and don’t think about it to much... but it’s hard. She doesn’t know I’m looking for them on here and I don’t know if I’ll find them but I wanna try."
  • A former egg donor reports: "When I explained why I wanted [my donor number], I was told [by the clinic] that reunions typically do not go well and that I should not pursue the matter further."
    This is nothing more than a fear tactic used by facilities looking to protect their own best interests (liabilities). We have thousands of testimonials, media stories, articles, and published research (peer-reviewed) on the DSR website showing successful, enriching, and life-changing connections between half-siblings and between donors and offspring. No matter what type of contract you signed with your egg clinic/agency, and no matter how they may advise against it, you always have the right to make yourself available for mutual consent contact on the DSR.
  • Another former egg donor reports: "Some fellow egg donors in an ED group admitted to lying and/or purposefully withholding information on their applications so they could be accepted. One ED even told another potential ED how many days to be off her meds so she could clear any screening done. It's not just sperm donors who cheat to make a buck. There needs to be far more accountability."

Sharing medical information on the DSR can be extremely important. Here are some examples of the need to provide updated medical info:

  • 2016: "As a donor, I updated my medical records between donations. They did not pass those updates on to previous recipients NOR recipients that came after those updates. I only know that because a family that came after that insisted on contact. She showed me all of the info she had gotten on me. Those updates were not included. Any of the updates I have done since have not been passed on to her either."
  • 2016: "I was an egg donor over 20 years ago... I called the office where I donated and let them know about my son having ADHD, anxiety, bipolar, etc. so they could let the offspring's family know. I am assuming because it was 100% confidential...they really didn't seem like they were interested or were going to pass the information on."
  • 2016: "I donated my eggs four different times at Genetics & IVF Institute in Fairfax, VA in the 90s/early 00s. Since then I discovered I carry a gene which means I'm at a much higher risk of getting several types of cancer. Since then I've tried to contact Genetics & IVF Institute so that they can relay this information to my offspring (they have a 50/50 chance of inheriting it) but they were not interested and it was obvious that they were not going to inform the families despite the fact early screening could potentially save these children's lives. I've recently turned 42 years old and I was just told this week that I most likely have Ovarian cancer (this will be confirmed through pathology after surgery) and that I will need my ovary removed asap. I don't know if this is because of donating my eggs when I was younger or because of my family history. It's very upsetting either way."
  • 2016: "I have been a member of the registry since 2004. I donated eggs in 97, 98, and 99. I am concerned about the children that may have resulted from those cycles. I have been diagnosed with Autosomal dominant polycystic kidney disease (ADPKD). I have 4 children, 2 have the disease. One does not and the youngest has not yet been tested. He is 15 and conceived from the cycle in 99. I kept 3 eggs and donated 20. I contacted the clinic immediately after I found out. They completely accepted the information but did not give me any real Indication that they would relay the information. I lost my mom in 2005 to aneurysm as a result of the disease. My niece had aneurysm surgery 4 years ago. She was the youngest diagnosed with serious complications. My sisters are both in renal failure waiting for transplants."
  • 2016: Medical Alert from a Former Egg Donor: If you used the Cooper Center for IVF between 1997-1999, or know anyone else that did, please see the postings for this clinic on the DSR. Contact Wendy if you need more information. "I have been a member of the registry since 2004. I donated eggs in 97, 98, and 99. I am concerned about the children that may have resulted from those cycles. I have been diagnosed with Autosomal dominant polycystic kidney disease (ADPKD). I have 4 children, 2 have the disease. One does not and the youngest has not yet been tested. He is 15 and conceived from the cycle in 99. I kept 3 eggs and donated 20. I contacted the clinic immediately after I found out. They completely accepted the information but did not give me any real Indication that they would relay the information. I lost my mom in 2005 to aneurysm as a result of the disease. My niece had aneurysm surgery 4 years ago. She was the youngest diagnosed with serious complications. My sisters are both in renal failure waiting for transplants."
  • 2016: Are there any egg donors out there with a similar experience with severe OHSS and/or other serious medical issues following egg donation? Any parents or egg donors out there who suspect that eggs or embryos were stolen and sold without your knowledge?
  • 2015: "I am an ovum donor and I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome types 2 and 3, and my two children do as well. This was only discovered in my 30s. I so wish I could tell other offspring." (According to the Mayo Clinic, if you have the most common varieties of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, there's a 50 percent chance that you'll pass on the gene to each of your children.)



As more egg donors, parents, and people conceived via egg donation come to the DSR, we want to make sure that they have all the educational materials and support that they might need. Here are some articles relating specifically to egg donation.

  • 2019: Older women exploited by IVF clinics, says fertility watchdog. Since 2004 the number of women in their 40s undergoing fertility treatment has doubled to 10,835 in 2017.
    The Telegraph said new figures showed that, among those using their own eggs, just 75 women aged 42 to 43 will end up with a baby. For those over 44, there was a success rate of just 1% between 2004 and 2017, the paper added.
  • 2017: I Donated My Eggs — & Here's the Scary Truth the Public Doesn't See
  • 2017: FDA Warning Wire: Donor Screening Lapses At Fertility Clinic
    A fertility clinic wasn't properly screening its egg donors for exposure to the Zika virus, HIV, syphilis and other diseases, according to a warning letter dated June 29. 
    The FDA scolded Illinois-based Center for Reproductive Health for its egg donation screening processes, saying that it had it had deemed women eligible to be egg donors before the results of communicable diseases testing were in.
  • 2017: NY Times: Do Egg Donors Face Long-Term Risks?
  • 2017: Babies born through IVF have higher cancer rates
  • 2017: Long-term breast cancer risk following ovarian stimulation in young egg donors: a call for follow-up, research and informed consent
  • 2016: Teen reunites with egg donor family for Nashville graduation
  • 2014: National Post Article: "I thought I just had to sleep it off’: Egg donor sues Toronto fertility doctor after suffering stroke.
  • 2014: Some Thoughts About "Where are My Eggs a blog by Ellen Glazer, Author of "Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation".
  • 2013: Maisson Nueve: Is Egg Donation Dangerous? "About five hundred egg donations take place in Canada every year, and experts say the process is very safe. But some donors face serious health problems—and doctors may be underestimating the risks."
  • 2012: The Atlantic: Mother's Helper: A Shocking Thing I Learned After Giving Up My Eggs
  • 2012: Dr. Ariel Weissman, Wolfson Institute, IVF Center, Israel: Oocyte Donation Survey - Results   ["In the vast majority of countries, only anonymous donations are allowed, and there has been a long-standing debate as to whether it is ethical to use known donors. In programs that responded to the survey, 91% of the treatment cycles were conducted using only anonymous donors, probably reflecting worldwide donor recruitment percentages." It so interesting that he frames the ethical debate as one about using known donors, instead about the ethics of using anonymous donors.]
  • 2012: USA Today: In vitro babies denied U.S. citizenship
  • 2011: Science Daily: High Risks Associated With Egg Donation to Women With Turner’s Syndrome, Research Reveals
  • 2010: American Fertility Association: Talking With Children About Ovum Donation 
  • 2010: Human Reproduction Update: Clinical and immunologic aspects of egg donation pregnancies 
  • 2010: Online Post: Selling my eggs 
  • 2010: Women Make News: Selling Eggs: The Untold Risks of Donation and Fertility Treatments and Need for Tracking
  • 2009: Med Law: Donation of Eggs In Assisted Reproduction and Informed Consent 
  • 2009: Human Reproduction, Dr. Jennifer Schneider and Wendy Kramer: US oocyte donors: a retrospective study of medical and psychosocial issues
  • 2009: Donor Sibling Registry: Letter to Knesset in Regards to Proposed Israeli Regulation of Egg Donation  [A letter written to the Israeli Knesset to help them better understand the needs and rights of egg donors, recipients and those conceived from egg donations]
  • 2008: The Wall Street Journal: Ova Time: Women Line Up To Donate Eggs -- for Money
  • 2007: Congressional Briefing on Human Egg Trafficking: It’s Time for an Egg donor Registry and Long-term Follow-up 
  • 2007: Center for Genetics & Society: Sometimes, it's hush-hush over donor eggs
  • 2007: Alliance for Humane Biotechnology: Petition for Human Egg Extraction Health Registry & for Warnings on Ads and Notices Seeking Egg Donors


DSR Blog


Huffington Post Articles


Research on Egg Donation



How do you tell your child they were conceived with the help of a donor, and then address curiosity about their half-siblings and/or donors?

Your Family: A Donor Kid’s Story is a sweet and light-hearted picture book that answers the question "where did I come from?” and then gently introduces the concepts of half-siblings and donors in an open and honest way. The book starts with the parent’s desire to have a baby, the use of a donor, and then broaches the topic of half-siblings and biological parents/donors. A perfect book for (the millions of) donor-conceived children to learn about how they were conceived and for helping them to understand that being curious about their unknown genetic origins and relatives is natural. 

Just as there are many family types, there are also many ways to define a child’s family and their donor relatives. Reading this book with your young donor-conceived child can initiate or supplement important and ongoing dialog about these genetic connections. These early conversations are integral for creating a happy and healthy donor child and family. 

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