We can all educate ourselves about the importance of terminology when dealing with sensitive family groups and communities, including in the world where sperm and eggs are sold and bought.  But it's tricky.

Terminology can be a real hot button as it indicates the way that we define our relationships.  

Here is how 1,683 surveyed sperm donor-conceived people refer to/describe the "donor".  42.58% of the DCP who had LGBTQ parents included the words father or dad while 66.83% of DCP with heterosexual parents used those words to describe the person from whom they received 50% of their DNA.

Only 22% of 1700 surveyed sperm donor recipients (the mothers) used the words father or dad when describing the person who contributed 50% of their child's DNA.

Once something is added to your collection of beliefs, you protect it from harm. You do this instinctively and unconsciously when confronted with attitude-inconsistent information. Just as confirmation bias shields you when you actively seek information, the backfire effect defends you when the information seeks you, when it blindsides you. Coming or going, you stick to your beliefs instead of questioning them. When someone tries to correct you, tries to dilute your misconceptions, it backfires and strengthens those misconceptions instead. Over time, the backfire effect makes you less skeptical of those things that allow you to continue seeing your beliefs and attitudes as true and proper. So, the more people are confronted with facts at odds with their opinions, the stronger they cling to those opinions.

If the industry acknowledged the new information and data, they would then need to honestly address their own policies and make changes that would negatively affect their businesses in a financial manner:

But the only ethical and responsible way forward for the industry that is helping to create human life is by honestly listening to and considering the parents', donors', and most importantly the donor-conceived peoples' experiences in the years and the decades after the gametes are sold and purchased when setting policy. 

Do sperm banks and egg clinics reach out to donors regularly/annually to update their medical information, like so many promise to do?  Nope. 

Do they keep accurate records on the children born from any one donor, in case of a medical emergency? Nope.

From the donor:
"The condition is 1) genetic, with dominant inheritance, 2) serious, resulting in sudden death in a small but significant portion of affected individuals (my DCP matches are entering the highest risk 15-24 age group), 3) silent - sudden death is often the first "symptom", so the condition is unlikely to be diagnosed from earlier, milder symptoms, and 4) proper medical management reduces the risk of death to nearly zero.  Because of those factors, medical guidelines call for immediate screening of first-degree relatives.

I reported to the sperm bank that my child was diagnosed with cancer (lymphoma/leukemia) the same week of his diagnosis and provided proof, so they could report it back to the donor and to the other families who had used the same donor. Almost two years later, none of the 11 families I am in contact with have been notified about my son's condition.

My older son is donor-conceived (sperm). The cryo bank (CCB) did discover that the donor seemed to have a genetic disorder (he reported it to them). This was after my son was born. CCB did not attempt to contact me to tell me. I only found out when I called them to see if I might be able to contact my donor. Otherwise, I would never have known. I also contacted CCB when my son became psychotic at age 14; they did not contact his half-sister and let her mom know.

Over the years a couple families in our DC family reported to Fairfax a high rate (1 in 5) of neurological disorders in the group. I called Fairfax a couple of days ago and the genetics counselor claims that no one has called in.

Here are just a few more reports from a 2017 FDA Citizen's Petition:

I used an anonymous donor to conceive my son in 1992. When my son was 15 I was able to locate the donor and made contact, but he never responded. While researching his family tree, his sister made contact to tell me the family suffered from a genetic defect of the aortic root, resulting in aortic aneurysms in her mother and three brothers, including the donor who suffered an aortic dissection in 2007. He
survived, but he never reported this genetic defect to the three banks where he donated. It is autosomally inherited, meaning that 50% of all children from this donor will inherit this defect.  It is a silent killer. Most people don't know there is a problem until the aorta dissects, resulting in death 80% of the time. After having my son checked out at Johns-Hopkins, he also had an aortic aneurysm growing in his chest at the age of 17. It was surgically repaired, and he has to be followed with annual echocardiograms for the rest of his life. If I hadn't located the donor, and his sister hadn't located me, I would never have known about this potentially deadly genetic defect. I contacted all three sperm banks, but none of them would take my word for it, even though I had the donor's name and my son's doctor records. 

We used Idant, which did not do any psychological screening. By the donor's own admission when meeting him 20 years later he suffers from bipolar disorder and was hospitalized as a teenager. My daughter suffers from bipolar disorder a highly genetic disorder. One of his other offspring completed suicide when she was eighteen. Another was in residential treatment as a teenager and then prison as an adult. He donated twice a week for two years.

My Fairfax ID donor committed suicide in 2013. I learned of his death one week after the birth of my second child in 2016. That means I posthumously conceived one or both of my children with a Fairfax Cryobank donor. I did not consent to this, and I do not know if the donor would have consented to this.

I am a lawyer who has, unfortunately, had to represent too many couples who had a child born with donor sperm that was not tested for common genetic diseases, even though the cryobanks represented that such genetic testing was performed. 

I'm a carrier of cystic fibrosis, and my mother is not. That means my donor was a carrier of cystic fibrosis and had passed the gene on to me.